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HOW TO MOTIVATE

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When I was young, whenever my parents would tell me to do it with the reasoning "because I said so" I would not do it. I was stubborn and defiant. I kicked against the pricks so to speak. I was able to shape up after my mission and I learned that obedience was important and that my parents knew very good things that would help me so after I came home from my mission I felt like the defiant days were over. I truly had no desire to challenge what my parents said and I never felt the need to but then me and my husband moved in with them. Me and my husband went to live with my parents during the COVID semester to get help with my newborn baby and our toddler while I was trying to finish my semester. I never expected any sort of trouble with them especially since I had changed my attitude and viewpoints about helping my parents. I was wrong. Little by little my mom would suggest things. At first they were just suggestions that I was grateful for. Then one day, we were sitting in t
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Connected

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The other day as my daughter shook her finger at me and cried because I wouldn't let her hit her sister I noticed something. The emotion in her tears was familiar. This may seem silly to some but it reminded me of the sadness I felt when I didn't get into the nursing program for the first time. It had the same anger and frustration that I felt after fighting with my parents as a teenager. A toddler crying because she wasn't allowed to hit her sister sounds completely immature and invalid to a normal adult. As I took a step back and tried to understand what my baby girl might have been feeling for her to cry so much. it helped me validate and respect her as a human being. First, she was stopped in the middle of doing something she wanted too do. Have you ever been interrupted in the middle of a very important meeting or phone call? Second, she felt the guilt and shame behind what she did which created embarrassment and made her want to shrink back and instead she retaliated
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